A flower does not think about competing with the other flower next to it, it just blooms.
I think this is human nature. To look at yourself and to compare what you have and what you don’t have. I do it all the time, and I need to STOP!
I look at friends with kids. I look at people happily married. I look at people successfully dating. I look at those people who are travelling the world like free spirits. I look at the people who’re living the dream location free. I look at people who own their own homes…I look!
And, when I dwell on it, it makes me jealous!
There I’ve said it!
I don’t mean to be jealous. Of course I’m thrilled that my friends and family have all these amazing things in their lives, and I’m sure I will have all of this and more one day!
But the truth is, we all compare ourselves way too much, which in turn places a hell of a lot of unnecessary pressure on us. It makes us sick. It’s shit! And unbeknownst to us, it does affect our levels of happiness and mental well-being, which by now you’re probably very aware that taking care of these two things is my number one priority.
Comparisons have been described as the thieves of all happiness, and I couldn’t agree more! Social Media, especially Facebook and Instagram are in particular two huge taunters – they feed our minds with the bullshit concept of “the grass is always greener on the other side” mentality!
I’ve fallen down this rabbit hole once or twice (OK many times), and I’m sure you have also, and all I can say about it is that it’s fruitless – it’s a f’n waste of time! This is why I’m trying to re-visit my core values, something that I’ll spend some time focusing on and penning later this week, to turn this way of thinking around.
Instead of envy, I want to focus on practising gratitude and my quirky uniqueness to avoid getting lodged deeply within that comparison rut again!
While I still need to explore different ways of enhancing my own sense of uniqueness to be more mindful of who I am, there’s one thing that I’m sure of. I need to create action, thoughts and goals based on my core values. Once I can create this clarity, it’s surely going to alleviate any type of mental drama, and I’ll be less inclined to worry about what those Joneses next door are up to.
Recognising this in me has been a huge wakeup call! I need to focus on my gratitude – what I have already, and I DO have a lot! So in saying this, I’m going to make it my personal mission to focus on all those positives in my life, namely my family and friends and forget about the rest (for now)!
PS. I love you!