Dear Body Shamer

You may be wondering why you got blocked.

Speculate all you like…here’s the truth!

You see, body shaming is not cool. Over the time I knew you, I heard you refer to parts of my body in a derogatory way, not once, not twice, but a number of times. You somehow always used to draw comparisons to that ‘idealised’ woman, that person you’ll never get.

Dear body shamer, let me tell you this. I’ve already battled eating disorders growing up. Ask my High School and University friends…you know those ‘real’ friends! They’ll tell you I along with many other impressionable girls were shamed into starving ourselves sick.

Thankfully, over the years I’ve grown to become a strong woman. Taking shit from other people is not an option, and I’d rather not have people like you in my life at all if this is the case.

Guess what!?

You’re far from perfect, and if we were to look at what that so-called ‘idealised’ person is, physically, spiritually and mentally, you’re nowhere near checking all the boxes. But guess what, body shaming isn’t my thing. It’s a thing for people, who’re so insecure and f*%ked up themselves that they feel the need to find fault in other people’s beauty.

I’ve never judged people for their appearance. I judge them for their inner beauty. Whether you’re curvy or thin, tall or short, black or white…I don’t care, as long as you’re kind and selfless.

In retrospect, I should’ve said something back to you, but there’s no point in fighting egos that constantly need reinforcing – they’ll be no winning.

I’ve already ranted about the types of people who infuriate me…hating takes too much energy, but body shamers are right up there towards the top of the list.

Body shaming is contagious, and who the hell in God’s name do you think you are to ever criticise a woman’s form? You’re the epitome of what’s wrong with society today!

Unfortunately, body shaming seems to be more and more widespread. I’d like to blame it on ‘cultural’ differences, but there’s no excuse for you. In saying this, I’m happy to see women fighting back. Jennifer Lawrence and Angelina Jolie are prime examples!

Before you point the finger at me, or any other woman or person for that matter, take a good long hard look at yourself. Perhaps you don’t notice your own imperfections or perhaps this is a way of masking them…who knows?

Vulnerable insecure people body shame- that’s the short of it!

Guess what?

I feel great about my body! I feel great about my life! I feel great about love! I feel great about my friends! I feel great about everything…so if you’re trying to use me or other people as some sick form of launching pad out of your own perceived deficiencies, you’re a sad individual, and no matter what happens you’ll never be truly happy, and for this I pity you.

I’m rising above you! My time and life is way too precious to be wasting it on people like you. I have no time for hostility nor do I have time for negativity. I don’t have time for crap! I just hope, whoever you try and body shame next time (and there will be a next time), they’re strong enough to also let go and press delete!

Here’s the crux of the matter – I won’t accept it! I won’t accept it for me, for my female students, my female friends, my female family members, and I certainly won’t accept it for my future daughter!

All I can say is this – do you remember that old age adage – “If you haven’t anything nice to say, don’t say it at all”? Perhaps you should start paying heed.

Dear body shamer – good luck with your life (you’ll need it)!



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